Sadly, divorce is necessary at times. There are situations where a divorce should be favoured over the restoration of the marriage vows. Sometimes reconciling differences is not possible. However, when repetitive divorce and remarriage (when someone is divorced and married multiple times) for non-serious issues becomes normalised in society, respect for the definition of the family becomes blurred; it begins with parents no longer loving one another, followed by children disrespecting their parents and elders. Everyone suffers when the foundation of a family is broken, and the cycle continues in every generation. Many times the children grow up thinking this type of behaviour in a marriage is normal. They end up developing a skewed understanding of godly relationships.
God must be the foundation of a marriage. This means that both partners must be living a godly life, respecting one another and having a good understanding of each others’ needs.
Seek God in your marriage. Have respect for the fact that marriage is sacred. If you desire to be married, seek out someone who is godly and shares the same ideals and goals as you do. If you are having difficulties in your marriage because your spouse is troublesome, pray to the Creator for guidance and patience, and pray for your spouse. Even if you are experiencing hardships and trials because of verbal and physical abuse, pray. In some cases, there may be no other solution than divorce. Seek the Almighty and take solace in knowing that He is the God of peace and comfort.
— Brother Joel
If you are experiencing violence in your marriage where you or your children are in danger, get help immediately. Contact your local authorities if possible, and seek out shelters or outreach centres that specialise in these situations.